Recently I have been totally sucked in to Shayla Black and Lexi Blake’s Masters of Ménage series. Don’t ask me why because I am fairly certain I have no logical answer. Maybe because it is a concept so foreign to me that I can’t help but read it over and over in an attempt to dissect it? Maybe because while it seems fun on the pages from a sexy perspective, I can’t stop wondering about the emotional point of view? I just don’t know.
There are two scenarios that I have seen become pretty popular recently. The first is the permanent ménage relationship. Lauren Dane writes, what I think, is the best example of this relationship in Laid Bare. This is one of the few permanent ménage relationship that I can see working long-term. It is a m/m/f grouping where all the individuals have emotional ties to each other. It doesn’t feel like someone is a third but that they are all a trio, if that makes sense. An example that I do not think will work is Rough, Raw, and Ready. I can’t recall a book ever making me so angry. It was an example of when ménage becomes cheating and unhealthy.
The second scenario is the one where we see a monogamous relationship between two people and they bring in a third for fun. This is a completely foreign concept to me because I cannot fathom watching my husband have sex with someone else….but we will go with it for now for the sake of this post. This ménage is usually described as the man wanting to control the woman’s pleasure by making someone else focus on her. Huh. Really?
If I am honest, neither concept works for me but somehow I can overlook that in books. I just can’t fathom how a permanent ménage relationship would work in today’s society. Besides societal constraints what about the simple logistics of everything? Who is married, who is the father of the kids, is there a three-way joint bank account too?? As for bringing a temporary third in how do you do that without adding in some sort of jealously?
Now I am in no way judging here, really I am just curious. I don’t understand why I like to read something in a book that would never, ever work in my real life. What about you? How do you feel about ménage in your books? Do you look for it or go out of your way to avoid it?